How To Remove Yourself From A Bad Relationship

You are in a bad relationship. Nothing about it feels right to you anymore. You don't even know why you decided to get with him in the first place. Wait, you do remember. He has charm.

For all his faults, when he turns on that charm, you just cannot seem to resist him. You want to though. You know that he's no good for you, yet, the moment he smiles that smile he gave when you first met him your knees get weak and it's like you are right back where you started. Hopelessly in love with him.

Then, it all goes downhill again.

He's back to his old self, not the one that you fell in love with, but the one that seems to take delight in treating you the wrong way.

How can you get out of this never ending cycle?

How can you finally break things off with him if he knows exactly what to say and do to make you go back to him?

It's hard to remove yourself from a relationship sometimes. Some men just seem to have that knack for knowing exactly when to turn on the charm and they just know when you need to hear those certain words that turn you right back around when you were headed for the door.

HOW CAN YOU REMOVE YOURSELF FROM A BAD RELATIONSHIP?

First you have to really let yourself be aware of the fact that it is indeed a bad relationship. You have to really feel it down to the core of your soul. You need to remind yourself that for every one of his charms, he has a dozen faults. If you don't allow the reality of the situation set in, it's going to be hard for you to find a way out no matter what you try to do.

Next, you need to find a way to support yourself in making the decision to finally break things off with him. This support can come from friends, it can come from family members or co workers, but you need to have that support system in place. It's not uncommon for a woman to finally decide to break up with a guy, and then to find herself calling him up a couple of days or weeks later just because she does not have anyone else to talk to.

And that is usually when the cycle kicks back in, and she's back with the guy she swore she would never go back to. If you truly are in a bad relationship, then you don't want to get wrapped up in that never ending leave and then come back kind of scenario.

FINALLY, YOU HAVE TO EXPECT THAT YOU CAN ATTRACT A BETTER GUY INTO YOUR LIFE.

You may not find him right away and you really cannot expect to. What you can expect is that you will eventually find that most guys are not jerks, and that there is definitely someone better for you down the road. You just have to find a way to take the first step and walk that road, even when you have no indication that it will get better and the right man will be there for you.

DON'T BLAME YOURSELF FOR BEING IN A BAD RELATIONSHIP.

This is really important. You need to keep your self esteem and self confidence at the highest levels if you are going to leave. You cannot allow yourself to take on all of the blame for being in a bad relationship, he did his part. And you cannot beat yourself down too much, because honestly, there are many more women just like you that have made a mistake in falling for the wrong guy.

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