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SOMETHING THAT STIRS ALL THE SENSES: FOOD
My life revolves around food, and not in some sick sort of way. I am not obese, but I like to cook and I love to eat, and the ambiance, of a great restaurant. A chef once told me he loves knowing he"is setting up the evening for lovers to make love after they eat his food."
That chef had a bit of an ego, but he was right, nonetheless. A great 1st date should entice the senses. People are at their best when a good atmosphere is invoked with food. Look at all the great movies: Like Water for Chocolate, Babette's Feast, Chocolate... the list goes on and on. We like our food, but we never really say it quite enough: food is an aphrodisiac, and not just oysters. Food and eating, and tasting, and smacking our lips around, and watching our date eat, and enjoy. Think about that. Food being broken down with our canines, incisors, ewww... so enticing... but this is our primal nature. So, for good God's sake, make a 1st date, women, men, who ever is the initiator of the date, it is up to you to make it powerful and use the senses to make memories because the olfactory nerves or what's going to make her/him remember you. A medical study, cited as Herz and Engen, 1996 states: "Only two synapses separates the olfactory nerves from the Hippocampus, which has implicated in memory... indeed this is why odor-evoked memories are unusually emotionally potent."
So, what's effecting your date is not so much what your wearing, she's not tasting and chewing that (or maybe if your lucky she is), she is tasting and smelling the drink and food, and the music is playing, ahhh... yes, the rhythm is going along with the food. She is remembering this while you watch her eyes glint and shine, and her mouth salivate... you are evoking all the senses to come and play... and the great complicated mind is creating a memory with smell, her brain praises you and gleans for more. She is remembering you right now... and this memory will long to make more similar memories. Science is a tricky little thing, because you forget about it, but it is always at the root of why we date in the first place, we are animals with instincts and are made up of chemicals and pheromones that respond to our environment, like a cat hunting its prey.
THE NEW PHEROMONE TREND IN DATING
On a larger scale, there's a new way to find a date, purely through smell. Pheromone parties are being hosted in Los Angeles and bigger cities, getting singles to connect to their dates, purely through smell. Ahh... if the world only was that barbaric still. We'd women be clubbed, and the men, oh, the men, wouldn't be complaining much because they'd still be grunting, not talking. Evolution has provided us with details on why women and men are attracted to pheromones in choosing their mates, study show its because it prevents inbreeding, and choosing a mate who is ovulating. However, we are (hopefully) intellectually able to curb this more animalistic style of just hopping on a person who happens to just be dropping an egg. The parties that are becoming a hit in the cities, derived from a web developer named Judith Prays, who remembered a guy's smell, but not him. Mhmmm... so Prays resorted to a kind of smell whats in the bag kind of thing and found that couples were hitting it off. But mostly couples were hitting it off, because they had a funny, great icebreaker. Two people smelling dirty shirts and underwear? Doesn't get more olfactory binding than that!
Of course this is all based on an article that I just read in the Huffington Post, and have yet to do a laundry smelling party myself. However, as a chef, who is not setting the stage "for people to make love" as my chef friend said, I am more interested in creating the memory of taste and smell that evokes a certain remembrance of time, that you want to go back to. Nostalgia. I have nostalgia for the meals and wine I have partook, and the company that brought me there. It's also not just the food, taste, or smell; the brain also needs another intellectual resource to bind the memory into place. This is how we involved. We need a counterpart, a feeling of intense warmness and safe being, where one in the midst's of smelling dirty laundry or eating Brie with champagne, must feel and remember like it was home, and not dangerous. Comfort food if you will for the senses. This I believe leads to the next date...
WHAT IF I GOT TEN BUCKS?
If you have ten bucks, it's picnic time and the gods will save you with pine and eucalyptus. Many people feel down trodden about the whole picnic, outdoors thing. There's nothing more invigorating than fresh air, and once again, the olfactory nerves will remember the surrounds stronger when a person is in a natural setting, surrounded by natural smells. You want the person to remember you; a picnic with fresh fruit is all you need. Sprinkle a little Sugar on those strawberries before you go, the sugar induces the already natural sweetness in the strawberry juices. Everything, big and small matters. Get creative dating, the world is filled with smells, including, hopefully the most enticing one of all, your own.
In my role as a web developer for HypnoBusters I have noticed a few certain trends recently in regards to peoples' use of hypnosis. For one many more people seem to be more comfortable experimenting with the effects of hypnosis, and once they do they often become repeat customers. Secondly our Nail Biting Hypnosis MP3 has become one of our very most popular sessions - and I think I know why.
From childhood I myself was a nail biter and it was through self hypnosis that I was finally able to put the nail in the coffin of the habit. Right there is why hypnosis has become such a popular form of treatment as a cure to nail biting, it actually works. Unlike a lot of the old wives' tales that leave you with a bad taste in your mouth (often, in this case, quite literally) hypnosis has proven to be an effective form of behavioral modification.
The way that hypnosis works is both simple and complex at the same time. In layman's terms though hypnosis helps to relax the conscious mind so that the subconscious can accept suggestions given to it by the hypnotherapist. In this case the suggestions would be made to help the client quit nail biting.
This is all well and good of course, but most people don't have the money to hire a hypnotherapist to treat a bad habit like nail biting which is unhealthy but certainly not deadly like smoking or overeating. That is where websites like HypnoBusters come in. While I run the technical side of things we have a clinically trained hypnotherapist called Jon Rhodes who digitally records real hypnosis sessions into the MP3 format. Because one of these MP3s can be sold to multiple customers it allows us to sell them at much more affordable prices. For example our Nail Biting Hypnosis MP3 is currently just 9.95.
Like any tool though it is important to use a hypnosis MP3 in the right way to maximize the results. Whenever you listen to a hypnosis session you should be in a safe environment where you feel warm and comfortable, and won't be disturbed for the duration of the session. Other than that, all you have to do is follow the hypnotherapist's instructions and you will find that the time flies by. While you are in a hypnotic trance you aren't asleep or unconscious, you are merely incredibly focused on what is being said to you. When the session is over you will feel very relaxed and probably remember bits and pieces of what was said to you. At HypnoBusters we recommend that you listen to our Nail Biting Hypnosis MP3 once a day for a period of a month. Should you ever find yourself slipping back into old habits after this period of time you can simply start the program again. Since you own the MP3 there is no extra cost to this, you can use it as much or as little as you want.
Now you know how to stop nail biting with hypnosis from HypnoBusters I hope you decide to give it a try. It really works.
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The facts and figures below will give you some great insights on the state of online dating and some of them may surprise you - Courtesy Meredith Broussard from Match.com, the #1 Site for Love. TRY MATCH.COM FREE FOR 7 DAYS!
Have you ever looked at the person you love and wondered, "What were the odds of us meeting and winding up head over heels?" I did the other day, and because I wondered it out loud-and because the person I love is a social scientist-he immediately looked it up in a book called Sex in America: A Definitive Survey. The odds were actually pretty good, he informed me. Sixty-three percent of married couples meet the way we did, through a network of friends.
To me, this 63 percent figure was a revelation. I always knew dating was a numbers game, but I'd never thought to take that saying literally. But as I continued browsing through my guy's extensive, factoid-heavy book collection, I realized that there were statistics confirming just about every dating phenomenon I'd ever experienced. So why not let the statistics guide you in your search for a lasting love? With that in mind, I put together a list of 10 factoids every single person should know:
1. 44 percent of adult Americans are single, according to U.S. Census figures. This means there are over 100 million unattached folks out there. So, if you've ever worried, "There's nobody out there for me," know that there's hope!
2. Statistically, the find-someone odds favor guys: There are 86 unmarried men for every 100 unmarried women, although in some regions the gender ratio favors women, especially out west. Paradise, Nevada, a suburb 10 miles from Las Vegas, has 118 unmarried men for every 100 unmarried women. Other cities where gals got it good include Austin, Texas; Fort Lauderdale, Florida; Tempe, Arizona; and Sunnyvale and Santa Ana, California. A coincidental bonus for women thinking of relocating: All of these cities are sunny and warm.
3. The best place for single people on the prowl is New York, where 50 percent of state residents are unmarried, and Washington, D.C., where a whopping 70 percent of the population is single. The worst places are Idaho, where 60 percent of people are married; and Utah, where 59 percent of people are married.
4. Think you'll find love while perched on a barstool? Think again. Only 9 percent of women and 2 percent of men say they've found a relationship at a bar or club-blame it on the beer goggles. So if you're lonely and looking, you're better off hitting on cuties at Starbucks.
5. Got someone hot in your sights and want to reveal your interest? Fifty-one percent of people use flattery, according to the book Are You Normal About Sex, Love, and Relationships? Or, try touching them, a tactic used by 25 percent of single folk. Still another 23 percent utilize the schoolyard approach and send the word out through a friend.
6. If you're into online dating, you're hardly alone: 40 million Americans use online dating services; that's about 40 percent of our entire U.S. single-people pool. So if you haven't tried it yet, maybe it's time to dive in!
7. Profiles and photos go together great. Online, being bashful will get you nowhere. Women and men who post their photos receive more than twice as many e-mails as those without photos, according to a study published by economists at MIT and University of Chicago. And a Match.com survey revealed that profiles with photos had 15 times the response rate as those without. Some numbers!
8. On a date, first impressions do count: Men take only 15 minutes to decide if a woman is worth a second date. For women, the clock isn't ticking quite so fast-they ponder whether to get together again for an hour or so.
9. The number one problem for couples in America? Disagreements about money, according to a poll by the University of Denver. So, don't write off a date just because you two bickered over the dinner bill; everyone clashes over cash.
10. If you're feeling like your relationship is hitting the skids and want to bail, the painful face-to-face approach might not be necessary: An estimated 48 percent of online daters report that their breakups have happened over e-mail. Call it rude or just plain convenient, but it happens a lot.
Meredith Broussard is the editor of an upcoming anthology, The Encyclopedia of Exes: 26 Stories by Men of Love Gone Wrong. Her website is www.failedrelationships.com.
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Hello!
This is my first post in this forum.
Long story short, I want to tell you about me and how my relationship is affecting me.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for about half a year now. I know it's a short time but it's really destroying me."Why don't you leave him?" Some of you will ask. Well... The thing is: It's not his fault
If we were a normal couple we wouldn't have had the time to have real problems in just half a year. But the thing is.. I have low self esteem issues and also it seems I have passive attitudes when there's a conflict and that makes me so unhappy, jealous and dependant.
I've been visiting a pshychologyst during 5 months to solve this... Well.. It's going to take a while it seems. The thing is.. it keeps me to be happy now when I most should be. This is my first relationship. I haven't been able to have one before because of my problems.
I know that you will say: "Just keep going to therapy!" But I just want to meet people who have the same problems and talk together about them...
I just feel alone and weird.
Thank you.
Daphnia.
PD: Sorry for my poor English, it's not my mother tongue. I'll get better.
Statistics: Posted by Daphnia - Thu Feb 12, 2015 6:59 pm
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"Dear Korean,"
"I was practicing violin today, minding my own business, when this strange Asian college kid flung open the door to my practice room and asked if I wanted to volunteer for the Bible Crusade. Apparently this Korean pastor travels around the world holding these sermon sessions, and recruit local musicians wherever they go. I refused because I was busy next week and the week after, but the kid was persistent. I finally managed to shoo him away."
"In fact, I saw this Bible Crusade thing before. They are everywhere in New York somehow, wearing orange shirts, handing out flyers and talking about pastor Park Ock Soo. What the hell is this stuff?"
"And also, can you pick up some tofu on the way home? We (which means you) are making tonight. I love you!"
"The Korean Fianc'ee"
The Korean loves you too honey. That's why your question jumps ahead of people who had been waiting for more than a year. (This question is not made up, by the way. The Korean Fianc'ee actually called and demanded that the Korean answer this question right away.)
First, a full disclosure: The Korean is a Presbyterian, but he did not really attend any church in Korea. He only started attending church in the U.S.
At any rate, the Korean himself got curious as well. He is sure that other New York-based readers have seen this stuff as well. Mostly Asian (almost certainly Korean, based on their looks) flyer-givers in orange shirt, taking over corners and muttering something about "Bible Crusade" and pastor Ock-Soo Park. In fact, the Korean sees these guys about once in two weeks or so on the way to work. So what the hell is this?
" These are the kind of guys that the Korean is talking about. "(Image was edited to protect privacy, although it was available via Google.) "
(Source withheld for obvious reasons.)
The simple answer is - these guys belong to an offshoot of Christianity that probably deserves the term "cult". They are generally referred to in Korea as "Saviorists" (), although their precise name is Association of Korean Christian Baptists (). In contrast, the name of the official Baptist organization is The Korea Baptist Convention. ( ) Christian Heresy Counseling Center, run by the Christian Council of Korea (which encompasses most Protestant faiths such as Presbyterians, Baptists, Methodists, Lutherans, etc.,) has decreed that Saviorists are heretics. (The website of the Heresy Counsel Center also has a fascinating list and articles about those Christian sects that it considers heretics.)
Apparently, Saviorist movement started in the 1960s, when an American missionary named Dick York made Mr. Park a pastor through an informal mission. Mr. Park did not attend any established seminary. According to Mr. Park, Mr. York was a part of Shield of Faith Mission International. (Mr. York's homepage is here.) The distinctive point in the Saviorist creed is that once you are saved by Christ, you no longer need to repent for your sins - because you are saved already. And the flip side of that logic is that if you continue admitting that you are a sinner (something that most Christians do every Sunday) you make yourself a sinner.
But the Korean does not really care about the finer points of theology. (Actually he does, but this post is not about that.) The term "cult" is deserved based not on faith, but on actions. So what about Saviorists that makes the Korean comfortable to call them a cult? Certainly, hitting up practice rooms around New York to recruit "volunteer" musicians sounds like a cult. (The Korean Fianc'ee spoke with her musician friends, and apparently these people went as far out as SUNY Stony Brook to recruit musicians.) The aggressive flyering (not just in Korea, but in New York!) feels like a cult.
Also, searching on Naver (Korea's equivalent to Yahoo!) about Park Ock-Soo results in accusations of being cult plastered with harsh rebuke against such accusation and creepy adulations for Park. Park also sued a pastor who criticized him as a heretic which lasted four years, all the way up to the Supreme Court of Korea (where Park lost.) Death threats against a person who quit the church probably count towards being a cult as well. (The person later wrote a book titled: "Why Are Park Ock-Soo, Lee Yo-Han and Yoo Byeong-Eon Heretics?")
But most intriguingly, they are implicated in the most classic cult behavior - MASS SUICIDE.
How are the people in orange connected to one of the most sensational news stories in Korea of the late 1980s? More after the jump.
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August 29, 1987.
The police was investigating a strange case. One couple in their 50s had seven children, all of whom worked at a company called Five Seas, Ltd. ( ). The company borrowed 500,000 (assuming 1 = KRW 1,000, a HUGE amount of money in 1987,) from the parents. Five Seas company only paid them the interest without paying the principal. When the parents went to the company to demand the money to be repaid, a number of company employees ganged up and physically assaulted them, causing serious injury.
Five Seas company represented itself as a mid-size company with an emphasis for employee welfare. Its business apparently was exporting hand-made crafts. The company also established day care center and nursing homes for its employees.
The police arrested eleven employees of the company, but a number of key employees ran off and disappeared. Later, the police received a tip that the employees were hiding in a company facility in Yong-In, Gyeonggi-do. On August 29, 1987, the police raided the facility. The police found 49 women and children at the facility, but not the top company officers they were looking for. But one female employee noticed that the ceiling of a room was caving in, unlike the way it was before. She notified another employee, and they climbed up to the attic on top of the room.
In the attic, there were 32 dead bodies. Most of them were found with their hands tied up and choked with a rope, and three men (presumably the ones who killed all others) hanged themselves.
(A lot of the description was lifted from the case file in the National Archives of Korea.)
This is now a distant memory in Korea, but in 1987 it was a sensation termed "Five Seas Incident" ( ). At the time, the police investigation revealed that Five Seas company was not a real company at all, but a cult led by a woman named Park Soon-Ja (who was one of the dead, along with her two sons and a daughter.) Park preached that the end was near, and they eventually had to offer themselves to god. Five Seas company recklessly borrowed money, both by posing as a legitimate company as well as by extorting its members. Five Seas cult ranked its members based on how much money they could bring into the cult, both with their own funds as well as whatever they could beg, borrow or steal.
"Cult leader Park Soon-Ja (center) with her son (second from the left), "after winning a prize in a handcraft contest. "
"Click the source for many more pictures related to this case." (Source)
The police concluded that it was a mass suicide, but questions remained. Among them was: one of the key officers who practically ran the company (as far as it was posing as a real company) was missing. His whereabouts would be revealed four years later. On July 10, 1991, five former members of the Five Seas company came to the police, and confessed that prior to the mass suicide, they killed the missing key officer and one other person for "breaking the rules." Sure enough, the police was able to recover two bodies from where the five led them. When asked why they came forward, they replied that their conscience compelled them to.
"Former Five Seas members re-constructing the crime scene in 1991 "(Source)
The police re-opened investigation to retrace the incident from the beginning and address all outstanding questions, such as: Was this really religiously motivated suicide, or did someone cause the death of the 32 for any other reason? Can we seriously believe that the murders who confessed that after four years because their conscience caught up to them? And why did the key officer of the Five Seas company have to be killed?
The last question provided the start of the thread that the police pursued. The key officer was running the company, which means he was in charge of the company's money. The police reconstructed how much money the Five Seas company collected, and it was estimated to be up to 17 million (assuming 1 = KRW 1,000) - an astronomical sum in late 1980s Korea. Then the next logical question is: where did the money go?
This is where the link between the Five Seas company and the Saviorists began to emerge. Bulk of the money was traced to a company called Semo Corporation, led by a man named Yoo Byeong-Eon () whose side job was to be a pastor for a Saviorist church. (Does the name sound familiar?)
This was a big deal at the time, because Semo Corporation was a big company, mostly known for importing the tour cruise boats on the Han River in Seoul. (The Korean remembers riding those boats as well.) The investigation further revealed that Park Soon-Ja (the cult leader of the Five Seas) and most of her followers were originally from Yoo's church.
With a crazy scenario like this, conspiracy theories were plenty. It was rumored that the 32 Five Seas cult people did not commit suicide, but was actually killed by Yoo's henchmen because Five Seas was attracting unwanted attention and Yoo wanted to sever ties with them. There was also a rumor that a key official in the Chun Doo-Hwan dictatorship that ruled Korea in 1987 was a secret Saviorist, who helped the Semo Corporation grow and covered up the Five Seas' ties to Semo when the suicide happened.
However, the investigation only concluded this much - Yoo was actually responsible for the former Five Seas murders to come forward, in order to distract the growing attention toward the tie between Five Seas and the Saviorist church. The 32 people indeed committed suicide, because there was no forensic evidence to suggest that they were murdered. However, Yoo was nonetheless indicted for fraud as he raised money from his followers in the Saviorist church for the purpose of doing "god's work," then proceeded to use that money for his company. He served four years in prison.
"Pastor Park Ock-Soo" (Source)
Now, back to the original point of this post - how does Park Ock-Soo fit into all this? As it turns out, like Park Ock-Soo, Yoo Byeong-Eon never attended a seminary either. Instead, Yoo also attended the makeshift school set up by Dick York and the Shield of Faith Mission International, alongside Park.
This is about as much as the Korean could gather from online research. No one knows for certain how deeply the Saviorists were involved in the Five Seas mass suicide (other than what is described above,) and it is not even clear whether Park Ock-Soo's group is necessarily the same as Yoo Byeong-Eon's group, since cults are usually a personality-driven affair. And of course, Park's followers vigorously deny any such involvement by Park in Five Seas incident. Park himself stated that "Dick York is a great man. It would not be right if all of his students are criticized because one of them did wrong."
At any rate, this whole thing is simply full of intrigue.
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It is understandable that you might be afraid to use male psychology to get him back. What you are going through is a very emotionally stressful time and you might feel safer using more traditional methods to get your ex back than using male psychology to get him back.
But maybe you have already tried those traditional methods of "conflict resolution" to try to get him back. Maybe you tried talking things through or tried resolving your differences or compromising. The problem is that your ex is a "don't wanter". He has no desire or reason to want to fix things. His fix was to end the relationship. This is where your ability to use male psychology to get him back comes in. This is where motivating him emotionally can come in handy and this is why the use of male psychology to get him back is so important and effective in getting you ex back.
This is the biggest stumbling block for most women when it comes to using psychological techniques to get their ex back and it might be for you also. You worry that if you try to use male psychology to get him back that he will know what you're up to and he will become angry or that the whole plan will backfire on you somehow. That is the beauty of using male psychology to get him back. That is the whole premise behind targeting your ex's emotions and sneaking in undetected to push his emotional hot buttons so he begins to have desire, want, need, love and feel things like regret and a heart felt desire to get back together with you.
When using male psychology to get him back your actions will be undetected and it will not appear as if you are doing much of anything to try to get your ex back.
When using male psychology to get your ex back, your actions will be undetected and it will not appear as if you are doing much of anything to try to get your ex back. In addition, the emotions that you target and the way that this whole things works is that even if he did suspect that you were up to something and he figured out that you were using male psychology to get him back, he would still be helpless to do anything other than react in a predictable manner. His reaction is ingrained in his psyche.
Using Male Psychology To Get Him Back - What Is It Exactly?
When we're talking about your ex and how you're going to use psychology to win him over, we're talking about exploiting or saying or doing things that are going to make him feel certain emotions. You have probably already noticed that when you try talking with him about getting back together or your relationship or when you tell him that you love him you get a negative response from him. In his mind, he is turned off or repelled by you somewhat. This is still male psychology to a degree. But when you start using male psychology to get your ex back, you are going to target emotions that are present just in men that will cause him to feel emotions like want, desire, craving and even lust.
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A better example of male psychology in men would be if you were on a first date with a guy and you started talking about getting married and what you should name your children. This would probably cause a guy to excuse himself to go to the rest room and never come back! Inversely, when you're using male psychology to get him back you're going to be saying and doing things that will cause him to start thinking about you and thinking about you with desire in his heart. There will be nothing that he can do about it. There is no resisting when it comes to using male psychology to get him back. This stuff is such a part of his makeup as a man that he will not be able to resist. It is just the way men are wired.
Using Male Psychology To Get Him Back - How Do You Do It?
A prime example of something that you can do and will do that is somewhat of an advanced technique when it comes to using male psychology to get him back involves pet names. Maybe you each called each other honey or baby or sweetheart when you were together. Once you have some rapport built with your ex and you want to draw him closer you might "accidentally" call him one of those pet names. This will cause him to feel a closeness to you and make him want to hear you call him that name more. He might begin to miss that closeness to you and start reliving memories of pleasant times spent with you. This is only a small example of what using male psychology to get him back is all about.
The techniques that you will learn, such as those in Get Him Back Forever by Matt Huston are much more powerful and deal with the emotions that you are going to need to break down that wall that he has built around his heart. I do recommend that you read this Matt Huston Get Him Back Forever review, by the way so you can see how I used male psychology to get him back myself.
And Example Of Using Male Psychology To Get Him Back
Another example of the power that is in using male psychology to get him back is something that you have probably seen before. You have seen the underlying male psyche that causes guys to react in very predictable ways. Most of the time we're talking negative emotions but at the moment this is I can think of for some reason. But have you ever been in traffic and someone cut your boyfriend off, almost wrecked his car and then flipped him off? He probably went crazy, right? Or maybe his favorite team got beat in the last moments of a really big game? Again, powerful emotions, right? You can harness those same kinds of emotions when you use male psychology to get him back.
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There should be little doubt that emotions and psychology is an effective way to get your ex to change his mind about your breakup. What you might never be able to accomplish in hours and months of trying to talk to him and convince him can be accomplished rather quickly when you use male psychology to get him back. When you want him to be the one to come back to you then there shouldn't be any question that using male psychology to get him back is the shortest route from point A to point B if you are serious about getting your ex back.
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Author: Jim Clemmer
"Nothing is impossible; there are ways that lead to everything, and if we had sufficient will we should always have sufficient means. It is often merely for an excuse that we say things are impossible." -- Francois de La Rochefoucauld, 17th century French philanthropist and social reformer
Many managers in leadership roles have stunted personal growth. Their "years of leadership experience and learning" is formal education (usually technical and/or management) followed by a year or two of experience multiplied twenty or thirty times. Heres an all too typical dinner conversation I had with a senior manager in the middle of a two-day improvement workshop I was running with a senior management team. The company was in crisis. It was struggling just to stay even in its industry.
"What do you do to personally improve the leadership skills we discussed today?"
"I am afraid I dont get much time to do anything."
"How many leadership or organization effectiveness books do you read a year?"
"One or two if I am lucky."
"What about seminars, workshops, or executive learning forums?"
"Well, I did get to one... No, that was two years ago."
"Do you listen to audio tapes in your car?"
"No, I am either winding down, gearing up, or talking on the phone."
"How often does your management team meet to review progress, reflect on its performance, and plan for improvements?"
"This is the first meeting weve had in a few years."
The 20th century American critic and novelist, John Gardner, once said, "all excellence involves discipline and tenacity of purpose." Both are critical elements in leadership development and personal effectiveness. Our tenacity and clarity of purpose and vision can help to spin the daily, weekly, and monthly disciplined habit strands. These become the cables that will either raise our performance or drag us down. "Paying the price" of personal improvement often focuses too much on the pain and sacrifice. Ive found instead that focusing on the gain of improvement, by keeping my preferred future and purpose firmly in front of me, has been my biggest improvement habit booster. Its impossible to put an exact number of hours on the time that effective leaders invest in their own personal improvement. But I would peg the minimum around ten percent. So if we work 50 hours per week, thats about 20 hours, or two to three days per month. The type of personal development varies widely. Reading is my single biggest personal development catalyst. I started getting up 45 minutes earlier to exercise and then read personal development or spiritual material, pray and meditate for over almost two decades now. Its proven to be one of the best habits I ever developed for starting my day with more energy and constant refocus on my lifes highest priorities.
I read organization improvement and leadership development material in the evenings or weekends when I am at home or on airplanes (its all too easy to dribble away this wonderfully rich, uninterrupted reading and thinking time) and hotel rooms when I travel. I find reading with a pen and my notebook computer nearby the most beneficial. Ive also found that listening to audio cassettes in my car is a terrific way to catch up to speakers or authors I want to hear and conference presentations.
There are as a many learning styles and pathways to personal development as there are leaders using them. A partial list includes: books, magazines, newspapers, and newsletters; special education or business television programs; customer research; pilots, experiments and "clumsy tries"; personal coaching and mentoring; benchmarking internal and external "best practices"; seminars, workshops, and skill development sessions; performance review, assessment, celebration and refocus; operational planning and strategy development sessions; customer, supplier, and internal team/organization member feedback; system and process measurement systems; audio and video tapes; computer, on-line, or multi media programs; peer groups and networks outside our organizations; teaching and training others; industry conferences and trade shows; university or college courses; keeping a personal journal; self evaluation, reflection, and improvement planning; consultants; and study tours.
Many roads lead to learning. There is no best road. The key is to develop a multitude of interconnected personal learning approaches and the discipline to make our continuous personal improvement a lifelong habit.
About the author: Jim Clemmer is a bestselling author and internationally acclaimed keynote speaker, workshop/retreat leader, and management team developer on leadership, change, customer focus, culture, teams, and personal growth. During the last 25 years he has delivered over two thousand customized keynote presentations, workshops, and retreats. His web site is www.clemmer.net/articles.
The key to successful pickup is attraction. If a woman is attracted to you, you can make all sorts of mistakes in your "game" and still be successful with her. If she's not, there's very little you can do to make her interested in taking things to the next level.
But many aspiring PUAs don't understand how attraction works for women, and thus make mistakes. It is very important to understand that women are not men. This sounds obvious, but it is the key to game. What while our primary attraction switches are visual, women are much more attracted to behavioral cues. Paying attention to your appearance and getting in shape will help you, but nowhere near as much as it would help a woman.
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To start, let's reduce the source of women's attraction to a single word: status. Developing your ability to see and understand status will help your pickup immensely. Make a habit of assessing the status of everyone you run into in different social situations. Start noticing the behaviour that high-status people engage in, compared to low status people, and incorporate it into your behaviour.
The high status person sits in the most comfortable chair. If there aren't enough chairs for everyone, he's sitting down, while others stand. He has a good view of the room. He speaks slowly because he trusts people will listen. He often speaks first or last in the conversation. He is less focused on the people around him than they are on him. He is making confident decisions for himself and for the group.
In addition to status, the following are powerful attraction switches for women:
Pre-Selection: Assessing whether a man truly has attractive personal qualities can take a lot of time, but if other women find him attractive, he must have them. Therefore, pre-selection is a major attractive quality. Surround yourself with women to take advantage of this, even if you aren't gaming them.
Confidence: One of the most important attraction switches. It is vitally important to be confident. If you don't feel confident, act confident. Constantly ask yourself "what would a more confident man do here?" and just do it. Women may find shy awkwardness charming, but if you want to create powerful physical sensations drawing her towards you, be bold!
Center of Attention: Are people focused on you? Are they looking at you, talking about you? Then she's going to want to spend more time with you.
Excellence: This is one of the most powerful attraction switches. Being excellent at anything. Displaying excellence marks you as sexually worthy. Remember that it's not enough to be excellent, you have to show it off, preferably effortlessly. Put yourself in environments where you have a chance to show off what you are excellent at.
Socially savvy: Women are generally quicker than men at picking up little cues about social behavior and status than men. If she sees that you're on her level with this, it will spark attraction.
Non-reactive: Stoicism is a stereotypically masculine trait - and guess what? Women are attractive to stereotypically masculine traits. Be emotionally strong, unaffected by the little slings and arrows life throws at you.
Non-reaction-seeking: This is related to the last one. People tend to ignore those of lower status than them, but they seek reactions from those above them on the social hierarchy. Therefore, if you are trying to get a reaction from her, you must be lower status than her, and therefore unattractive.
Fun: Being the guy who is always enjoyable to be around makes you attractive. Don't be the quiet guy in the corner. Get out and be social and fun!
Positivity: Related to the last. Because women are often more emotional than men, they feel negativity stronger than we do - but they also feel positivity stronger than we do. So be positive about things, and women will flock to you.
Protector of Loved Ones: If we remember, ultimately, that attraction switches were selected for by evolution, this makes a lot of sense. A woman wants to feel, viscerally, that you'll take care of her and your children - even if she has no intention of actually having kids with you. Evolution hasn't caught up to birth control! This one can be hard to show off directly, but work it into the stories you tell about yourself.
Effortlessness: One of the biggest killers of attraction is the sense that you are trying hard to make something happen. Attractive men do everything easily, effortlessly. Try to just be doing your thing and letting good things flow to you.
Humility: Related to the above. An attractive man doesn't try to show anyone up. However, there's a trap here for many aspiring PUAs: Avoid putting yourself down. Self-deprecating humor is bad for you game - but remember that every self-deprecating joke is a cocky/funny joke in reverse, and cocky/funny hits a lot of attraction switches.
As David DeAngelo pointed out attraction is not a choice. Hit all of these switches and you will have the women fawning over you. You will still need to apply good game to successfully advance, but the more you can keep her attracted, the easier things will go! Get used to pushing this buttons and hit them all the time.
Happy gaming!
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