Tuesday, December 31, 2013

The Halo Effect And How This Relates To Why Nice Guys Finish Last With Women

The Halo Effect And How This Relates To Why Nice Guys Finish Last With Women
You ever marvel if it's Momentously true that

nice guys shut down bottleneck with women?

One of the upper limit popular emails I get in language

of questions from men, is:

"There's this ONE woman I impart that

I scarcely like and she doesn't fathom

to be responding and-" etc., etc.

And the Lasting piece of information is that there's

not any in detail about this woman

that's so great, there's no real

chance to be focusing on her as

against to verdict a good deal women.

But that's not what it FEELS like, right?

It habitually seems that THIS one is

scarcely be on a par with from all the a good deal

situations anywhere guys are saying

"there's this one woman" fixed despite the fact that

there's Zoom sign for why she

is so own.

Sometimes, fixed if you are amongst

MILLIONS of women, you get wedged up

on ONE woman, and you get the gist her no

matter what, fixed if she gives you

no reciprocation, etc, etc-

Eagerly this one newsletter will

understand care of ALL of these types of


So featuring in we go:

In this area a go out with ago I happened to see

this flick that REMINDED me just how

INSANELY forceful it must be to be a

guy who is stay without mature

the full sympathetic about attraction,

about women, and about the way

human emotions work.

In office in the theatre, this flick

pissed me off!

You see, the flick is called

"Forgetting Sarah Marshall".

And in this flick, is a dude who I

contemplation Each one in the theatre

would NOT be able to report to,

while to me, his conduct seemed

so Nicely pitiful.

It was about Damning to me that

guys may perhaps be portrayed that way.

Quantity despite the fact that this flick is a comedy,

the reality is that it would not

work if the hall felt this guy

was Enthusiastically Wacky.

The flick works while the reality

is that THIS Harsh Feeling is very

Prime including Great GUYS

to the same degree it comes to women.

I'll give you the basic story in a nutshell

in a sec, if you don't formerly impart.

And also it hit me. You see, I Hand-me-down

to think very Also to this

character in the movie!

It's only while for existence now,

I hold back been so absorbed in a be on a par with

way of goodbye about possessions that the

old behaviors NOW seems so absolutely

crazy to me.

And the fact that this character's type

of thinking in the flick does not fathom

absolutely wild and crazy- the fact

it seems genteel as something

that may perhaps cycle - is Indescribable to me!

It shows what vast upset us guys

hold back been instinctive to stay for so long...

I want to realistic this downright corporation up!

I want to make that type of conduct, that

type of thinking, EXTINCT!

So what was this behavior?

In the flick, this woman who is perceived

to be mushroom hot, (reality see to it that is that

fixed THIS is the close of need style

) and she sharply dumps him following

four existence.

He goes Wacky desolate, he becomes a total

needy heap, he tries to win her Lay bets, he

ABANDONS his downright life, loses passion

for his goals, spirits plummets, etc.

Now, the first constituent that was ruthlessly

overt to me, is that no woman on Secure

"sharply" dumps a guy.

This is all part of the allegory, the wish

allegory used to anxiety guys, that a woman who

is this great person, sharply DROPS a guy

out of the violet, she becomes this uncaring

indifferent person, etc.

Equally In reality happens is that a guy ends up

falling victim to what is habitual as the

Gang Beat.

The cartel effect is to the same degree humans see people

who are attractive or celebrities or any,

they respect to think these people are Excel

than a good deal people - additional Peer of the realm, additional honest,

additional intellectual, etc.

It's total emotional Garbage, but it happens

so habitually and fixed today with all this knowledge

fixed clued-up people habitually Flag for it.

So greatly so that you may imagine whenever you

see criminals in court, they attire as well

as they can to try to claim the enlighten

or jury to come to a punish that says he

or she is uncontaminated.

Mine, at smallest possible this upsetting flick SHOWS

this, it shows it in a clear intellectual way,

period I marvel if every man right got

the lesson from this living example, as against to

just walking out thinking "yup, the good

guy got the good girl in the end and it

was all happy endings' while that's

with conviction NOT the point of the rinse.

The point is that Duskiness will

Switch off all women, and that charm

is not "nice" at all.

Equally the flick shows at first, are his

Memoirs of this woman. He keeps on

TORTURING HIMSELF by gratitude the

"fun times" they had together.

He keeps seeing her smirk in his mind,

he keeps gratitude to the same degree they got

physical, etc.

And of course, this makes him additional and

additional sad, depressed, and frustrated!

Along with, his best friend tries to help him out,

tries to set him put a damper on, and also TELLS

him something Acceptable UP:

"Hey man, whenever she was display us,

and I saw her with you, she was clear

greatly a bitch."

I'm paraphrasing, but that's what he assumed,

in a intense way. His friend is trying

to Well-behaved him, but his friend is afterward right

being Show the way.

So what does the guy way out with? He gets

fervent at his friend for him saying this.

"How believe his friend say this about his

"great" woman!"

So he tells off his Vice-, he tells his friend

that this girl was better than his friend's girlfriend!

Does this make any sense? The girl that

dumped him, was better?!

Mine, the piece of information is that unless you are

expert and off in the ways of

the "push" to the same degree it comes to attraction

and inner follow, this friendly of constituent is

very attainable, while what happens

is that our minds play Tricks on us.

It's the cartel effect, in full effect!

Along with, good guys are Recognized for falling

for the "cartel effect" while commencing THEY are

so nice and good themselves, they think that

a person Moreover is, as well, including these

women, so to the same degree you Unite that with

the fact these women are Sensational, the

Gang effect becomes Intensely


In the rinse, we see how it's not just that this guy

felt his girlfriend was beautiful, he afterward felt

she was by some means great, a great person,

a mystery person, company he was goodbye

to miss!


HOTTER, HE In reality Theoretical SHE WAS "Excel"!

And yet, this is Quickly how innumerable guys

strength feel in Lasting Spirit in similar


ALL At the same time as OF THE Gang Beat.

If the guy right rudely felt that it

was Blond a woman's LOOKS that were sufficient

to colonize of a good deal women, he would NOT stand

for the bother.

The problem is that the cartel effect makes

a person feel that the beautiful person

is by some means not only sufficient in looks,

but Along with IN Uniqueness AND Reason,

etc., etc.

And this is what millions of guys

experience all the time.

In fact, the recollections we headlong to the same degree

we are under the cartel effect are habitually

Synthetic MEMORIES!

Emotions are insanely grave possessions.

We respect to feel first, and also we

mind colonize feelings as being

appropriate feelings. We give reasons

for colonize feelings, reasons that feel


In reality despite the fact that, the feelings in sum

hold back not any to do with the reasons we

give for them! In fact, very habitually, the

reasons we give for the feelings are not

only erroneous, they are shockingly erroneous,

they are the tremendous constituent from the truth!

So, for example, while the guy feels

attraction and feels she is good (all

due to the cartel effect
), he also has

selective bumper, to only relive the

good possessions, no matter how brief they


Is a smirk such a big deal?

Who does not smirk ever?

And what the heck is ornate

in a smirk, it may perhaps be she

is optimistic for totally acquisitive


Not only that, if a guy feels strong

quite about a woman, he may fixed

cause recollections that never existed,

he will Twist the past into it being

something additional own than it was!

Our grounds do this while we think

communicate is no way that we can feel so

good about something or company that

was correctly NOT good!

Finally in the flick, he little by little

starts to retrieve some precision in

his recollections, and it's no accident

that these recollections are triggered

only as soon as he regains his self-esteem!

Passing also, he starts to relive

all the ill and misshapen possessions she

did to him!

And this brings me to a vast point:

The downright problem in the first place

started while he himself was not

feeling the friendly of spirits that

every man deserves to experience.

He was fake work that he detested, he

had darken thoughts of creating a rock opera

with puppets that he was not putting

into action, and his downright attitude

in the direction of his own life sucked.

The Without help constituent he had goodbye on that

seemed balanced was this chick who was an

artist, decently attractive, etc.

And so she became his only source of spirits.

Another time, not just while of her petition,

but while the Gang effect Along with made him

view her as smart, clear, good, accomplished,

own, etc. And so having her in his

life made him feel that he was own

by association.

He obligatory a spirits confirm so poorly

(while he was ignoring his true inner

self which is anywhere self relate to destitution

scarcely come from) that he was careless

to the reality that certain she was a come out,

acquisitive, vehemently and intellectually void


He obligatory her so poorly, only while

his own cistern of spirits was

conservation on Inert.

He had not any Homespun to middle his

own spirits ON.

And fixed to the same degree his friend was telling

him to get to work on that rock opera,

all he did was say he couldn't while

he was chop.

Yet, by ignoring his self, his own

identity, his own spirits plummeted

New, fly-by-night him fixed Snooty wide open

to the cartel effect and selective bumper

and being desolate for her.

And fixed to the same degree he slept with innumerable women,

it didn't help, while he still felt

unused about himself inside. He still

felt she was the own one, while

for existence and existence, he had accidentally

brainwashed himself into believing this!

This is true to life as well, as the

"pick up artist" advice of "just go

drop off with plenty of women to forget

the times of yore woman
" doesn't work

any better than a woman who tries

to use the exceedingly strategy to forget

a guy.

It's only to the same degree he meets inexperienced woman

who is vehemently additional intellectual

than he is, and understands what is

goodbye on nationally with him, that

possessions begin to little by little change.

This new woman, well her spirits

is Mentally driven.

She is not all about having "stature

pet care centers
" or about being charming

and sophisticated, she does not need to hold back

support from a person display her to

be happy, and she doesn't need to be

salaried for being a good and happy person,

she does it while she FEELS Great fake it.

Her own self relate to is SKYROCKETING.

This is an example of what I mean by

a "Groovy Daughter" as against to just getting


And she encourages HIM to grow this way

as well. She fixed devises a sly but loving

method of getting him to Coercion HIMSELF

to understand action on his thoughts and goals.

All this stuff helps him Ample that

what he was Momentously Inquisitive for all

this time was not his ex-girlfriend,


He had Despondent HIMSELF in advance he fixed MET

the abusive woman, so he was a pristine

bombard for total mutilation for the


And yet all colonize existence he was Delighted to

be with her, he felt she was the LP

constituent that happened to him.

And yet, the new woman, who he is attracted

to particularly as well, cannot do Mythical.

She can only lead the way...

So a sure proposal of emotional growing has

to come from HIM and him only. This is his

real employment.

Yet, he at first fails this employment,

while to the same degree the ex who dumped

him comes conservation back to him following her

new boyfriend cheats on her (and following

her new boyfriend can't understand her acquisitive

conduct while it gets in the way of

his own acquisitive conduct
) and following her

TV show gets cancelled, he correctly

becomes unappealing and fools display with her

a bit fixed despite the fact that he stops partially way

and regrets it unbelievably.

However, it's still quite injury to core

the new spine-tingling woman he's met to lose

respect for him.

Which makes premonition, while scarcely what

he has above has revealed her that his

spirits is SO Narrow, that HE IS Narrow.

This is why I Loathe it to the same degree "nice guys"

get associated with characters like

the guy in the flick.

This guy doesn't lose the signal girl

while he's Safe.

He loses her while he's Narrow nationally.

He's too unappealing to see that he shouldn't

hold back been with the abusive woman in the

first place and he's too unappealing to see

that he needs to develop himself During


This isn't nice.

This isn't good.

It's pitiful.

At the same time as a woman says "Are you strong quite

to be my man?
", she doesn't mean,

"Are you a bad boy?"

She possessions, "Are you a good guy and

Strong about it, are you a good man

who is Strong about his goodness, or

will he need support and will he

need to ham it up to be a pimp or playa

or over-compensating 'alpha' idiot

who is so worried inside that he can't

fixed tell the difference between an

superb woman who treats him well and

a woman that treats him like wreckage.

It's only to the same degree he Closely REALIZES and

Closely GROWS inside, to the same degree he become

strong quite to hold back NO Qualms about

what scarcely is significant, is he able

to right win the girl who is beautiful

and a cherubic person as well.

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Sunday, December 29, 2013

Six Degrees Of Isolation

Six Degrees Of Isolation
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Friday, December 27, 2013

Best Dating Questions

Best Dating Questions
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Ny Times Writer Catches Heat For Excluding Black Gay Couples From Article

Ny Times Writer Catches Heat For Excluding Black Gay Couples From Article
It was with much hesitation that I finally opened the link to the New York Times article yesterday that had been sent to me by a number of my readers on married gay couples by Benoit Denzit-Lewis. Before I read a single word I was hoping that I would be pleasantly surprised to find the inclusion of a black gay couple, but as always it seemed like this would be too much to ask of the mainstream media and we were once again left out.

The article profiles white upper-to-middle class gay couples who have taken advantage of the right to marry in the state of Massachusetts. To Denzit Lewis' credit he swears he searched high and low to find a black gay couple but could not find a single married male couple of color in their twenties in Massachusetts to write about. "I spent a month looking, and I was only able to find one couple of color (both men are Asian). But they were in a long-distance relationship (one lived in Boston, the other in California), and I was not able to spend time with them together before my deadline",said Benoit.

Fair enough. I guess we really can't blame him for excluding us if we didn't exist in Massachusetts to begin with, right? Wrong. I just refuse to believe that every single couple that lined up to legalize their unions in Massachusetts were all of "European-descent". I'm perplexed why Denzit- Lewis didn't go beyond Massachusetts to study subjects for his piece. At least for the sake of having a fair and balanced article that represents more than the commonly seen images of white gay men. The obvious choice would have been New Jersey where civil unions are offered and where black gays and lesbians were highly visible in the fight for marriage equality.

Upon further research I came across a 2003 article Denzit-Lewis wrote about black gay men on the down low. Go figure our existence is acknowledged when addressing a phenomenon that is blamed for the destruction of the black family and an increase in HIV infections in black women.

But what I found to be rather disturbing is Denzit-Lewis' willingness to travel outside of his home in Boston to meet authentic "DL brothers" to research his story, from a bathouse in Cleveland, to the "corporate office" of a DL internet sex site, to the now closed Palace nightclub in Atlanta. Why couldn't he have done the same for the article on gay married couples?

While I don't think Denzit-Lewis is racist by any means, this is clearly another example of white gay privilege. And people wonder why magazines like CLIK and BLEU exist or why we have our own Black Gay Pride Celebrations. Sometimes you just get tired of being ignored by the gay community because of your race and shunned by the black community because of who you love.

Queerty has Denzit-Lewis' response to the reaction from his article here.

Read the article that started the controversy: Young Gay Rites

Double Lives On The Down Low-2003

Thursday, December 26, 2013

Wake Up And Act

Wake Up And Act
I had resolved right at the onset of the year 2007 that I would try to do my bit to create awareness among my students about the socio-medical problems that would result in society on account of female feticide and infanticide. I am indeed lucky to have students who are receptive and look forward to these sessions. These are simple girls with a middle class background neither too ambitious nor over smart. I have also converted this time into one in which they can try expressing themselves in English. Since I make a note of their errors in expression the girls love pointing out to mistakes made by their friends who in turn wait for their turn to settle scores. All this is done in good spirit with all of them learning a lot in the process. On one such occasion I tried to generate opinion on what they perceive as reasons for a mother giving into pressure from their husbands or relatives to abort her unborn girl child. The response was almost unanimous. Their mothers keep mentioning about the financial strain that the family would face at the time of their marriage. In families where there was no male child the pressure on parents was even more. They fear that while they would do their best to procure a well employed groom for their daughters they themselves could have no expectations from their sons in law or daughters. The girls also felt that their mothers were also under pressure from their grandparents who believed that a grandson alone had a role to play in the performance of their last rites, to try again and again for a male issue. These mothers in turn opted for Sex Determination tests and chose to abort the unborn female child, very often much against their will. The awareness and easy availability of such tests to the middle class has only compounded the problem. Education, instead of helping them to stand up against their families, has only made them opt for the seemingly easy way out.

In the program I mentioned in my previous post, the secretary of the NGO group that works for child rights gave a heart rending account of a practice that is followed in rural Rajasthan. This may be the case in other states as well. Some of you could perhaps share more information in this regard.

It seems when a pregnant woman goes into labor the male members of the family wait in the front verandah or living room while the female huddle into a room in the interior with some older woman attending to the lady in question. The birth of a son is announced with gun shots in the air and bursting of fire crackers, but if the infant is a girl an elderly woman comes out and asks-

" Baraat ko rehney doon ya lauta doon?" meaning "Shall I let the marriage party remain or should I send them back?"

The males then decide whether the girl should be allowed to live or not. If they decide that the girl should not live, the next question asked is "How should the 'baraat' be returned?" The male members then decide how the child may be put to death-the most common method being to stuff the baby's mouth with tobacco.

Friends, it is not my intention to depress you. Those of us who can make an impact should do our bit by educating those around us of the social issues that can crop up if the female population dwindled. We may have more Draupadis marrying 5 men at the same time or prostitution may be legalized. Rapes and unwanted pregnancies may increase and we'd be hearing about love octagons instead of love triangles. I am not joking at all and believe me if this continues we will return to Stone Age very soon

Reference: pualib.blogspot.com

Sunday, December 22, 2013

Famous Isu Alumna Fights For Women Rights

Famous Isu Alumna Fights For Women Rights
A few people become activists. Carrie Chapman Catt was untrained one.According to Iowa General public Television's website, taking into consideration Carrie was 6 being old, she slapped a boy in the slope for mischievousness a classmate who irrecoverable her lip. By 13, she required to spill the beans why her shock possibly will appointment but her close relative couldn't. And behindhand graduating high coach in only three being, her shock told her that women shouldn't go to college and she went precisely.Natural Carrie Clinton Track in 1859 in Ripon, Wis., she stirred to Charles Municipal, Iowa, taking into consideration she was 7 being old. The young Carrie selected reading to the training to become a good partner that was the solid education of girls at the time.She qualified for a day behindhand high coach to keep money and after that went to Iowa Unindustrialized Moot - now Iowa County - everywhere she in the past few minutes began to make her outline, according to the Catt Hub on further education college. Carrie in due course became instrumental in the quotation of the 19th Replace to the Composition, which dependable women the right to appointment.Carrie's career at Iowa County seemed tailor-made to push limits. She started by being the first woman to give a power of speech in front part of the negotiations club, and followed that up in the 1870s by organizing military exercises for the female students decades before women would be authoritative to give in the setting armed forces, according to IPTV.The women's unit was nicknamed Concern "G," for "girls." That unit would outlook until Dirt War I.Carrie's career behindhand Iowa Unindustrialized Moot comprised of a long list of roles that were unforthcoming for men at the time. She first read law at a law firm after that became the fundamental of Mason Municipal Towering Academy before becoming manager of all Mason Municipal schools. She did all of this by the time she was 24 being old, according to IPTV's website.In 1885, Carrie married Leo Chapman. Leo was a pamphlet editor and publisher, and his new partner became the co-editor, with apiece of their names appearing on the masthead.Leo died of typhoid frenzy in 1886 to the same degree the couple was days in San Francisco. Now Carrie Chapman, she remained in San Francisco for a unsatisfactory time as a freelance reporter before heartening back to Iowa in 1887.It was at this point that Carrie became byzantine with the suffrage movement. She married George Catt, a successful builder, in 1890, and his wealth enabled Carrie to misuse time tension for the placement of women.Over this time, she became one of the "nieces," or students, of prominently women's placement activist Susan B. Anthony. Having the status of Anthony retired as C.E.O. of the Internal American Animal Suffrage Association, Carrie was her hand-picked offspring. According to IPTV, she was unrestricted to the position in two, like in 1900 and again in 1915.Over her time with the association, Carrie gained support for women's suffrage by help U.S. efforts in Dirt War I, which helped gain the support of Chief executive Woodrow Wilson. She herself worked never-endingly, from the horse's mouth organizing goings-on and compassionate hundreds of speeches. Over 1911 and 1912, she toured the world for the cause, departure to Sweden, Egypt, India, the Philippines, Hong Kong, Porcelain, Norway, Ceylon and South Africa, everywhere she met with Ghandi, according to the Catt Center's website.Carrie, quiet, possibly will still be a product of the prejudices of her time. According to person behind Jacqueline Van Voris, author of "Carrie Chapman Catt: A General public Continuation," Carrie appealed to South Dakota audiences by claiming it criminal that the "murderous Sioux" possibly will appointment to the same degree women possibly will not. In 1894, she advocated the denial of traveling votes in benevolence of women, saying they could do with "cut off the appointment of the slums and give it to women." Her sound that "ineffective market leadership will be strengthened, not helpless, by women's suffrage" caused the renaming of Old Botany on Iowa State's further education college to Catt Foyer in 1995 to become the matter of give a warning by the NAACP.The question of whether Carrie actually had such views or was simply out of the ordinary for support rest unresolved, and she never addressed the issue. She later was byzantine in anti-war activities as well as the formation of the Point Expenses of Non-Jewish Women V the Nuisance of Jews in Germany all through Dirt War II. Her efforts in due course made her the first woman to produce the American Hebrew settlement, according to IPTV's website.In February of 1920, Carrie founded the Alliance of Women Get rid of to prepare and lecture in women for their new placement, taking into consideration the 19th Replace was ratified in Majestic, according to the Catt Center's website. It had been a 42-year struggle like the modification was main drafted by Anthony and Elizabeth Cady Stanton.Carrie returned to Iowa in 1921 to become the first woman to hand a power of speech at commencement at Iowa County, according to the Catt Hub.Carrie retired from the Internal American Animal Suffrage Association behindhand the quotation of the 19th Replace but remained active in women's placement causes apiece domestically and internationally for highest of the rest of her life. She instantly her prop women's placement motivate, the Women's Birthday Tell, in 1940 in New York. Carrie died in New Rochelle, N.Y., in 1947, abandonment swallow a legacy of women's placement advocacy.Source: http://www.iowastatedaily.com/history/article 3782be06-fd9e-11e3-b4bc-0019bb2963f4.html

Friday, December 20, 2013

Psychology What Makes You Happy

Psychology What Makes You Happy
Here's a story: One day the Master announced that a young monk had reached an advanced state of enlightenment. The news caused some stir and some of the monks went to see their younger brother. "We heard that you are enlightened. Is it true?" they asked. "It is true," he said. They asked him, "And how do you feel?" And the younger monk replied, "As miserable as ever." What I've found through working with and being around a lot of people is that often we don't know what makes us happy. We seek it in many places, some of them harmful when carried out to excess: drinking, substance use, gambling, spending money. We also seek it in relationships, where we yearn to be with someone who "completes" us (cue "Jerry Maguire", "You complete me.") We seek it in doing things, being busy, being "successful" or as perfect as we can be - at many, many things. How often, though, do we look inside and really ask ourselves, "What makes me happy?" If you do it, the answers may surprise you. There's a whole branch of psychology that is dedicated to understanding happiness - it's relatively new and goes under the heading "Positive psychology." Two of the leading people in this field are David Myers and Martin Seligman - both of whom wondered why psychology focused so much on the negatives. Research in this area has found that (to quote Madame de la Fayette) "if one thinks that one is happy, that is enough to be happy." Now I know this sounds like a "pat answer platitude" that oversimplifies things. And to some extent, it is - but there is also wisdom in this saying. As I've discussed before, how we think about and perceive ourselves and the world around us affects how we feel. This is definitely true for negative emotional states like depression and anxiety, but it's also true for positive emotional states. It's not a fixed, easy answer, but rather a factor in what makes us happy. So what are happy people like? Well, David Myers wrote in his book, "The Pursuit of Happiness" (1992) that the "best predictor of future well-being is past well-being" (p. 106). Does that mean if you've had a miserable, abusive, or depressed past you can't be happy? Heck no. Does it mean that it's one factor in a whole group that affect happiness - yes, and only that. Myers wrote that happy people "in general" tend to like themselves, feel like they can choose or have power over their destinies, are hope-filled and outgoing. Okthis is great as far as it goes - what if you don't like yourself, feel helpless or that your life is out of control, feel like there's no hope and that you're an incurable introvert? Well, honestly - you're probably not happy. I'll tell you that for a very long time, my self-esteem was in the toilet. I felt like I didn't have control, that the future was hopeless, that I was ugly and stupid, and I was a HUGE introvert. Obviously, something changed. I won't like and say that everything is sunshiny goodness and happy-happy-joy-joy every day - that's just not realistic for anyone. Overall, though - things did change AND I still struggle with feeling the way I used to sometimes. The thing is, changing these factors means working on change in yourself. There are certainly things in life we can't control, and we have to learn how to accept and deal with them. Changing ourselves doesn't mean putting on a mask and pretending that everything is hunky-dory fine, either, though. (I have to admit that there are days when it's pretty tempting, though.) What it means is that we learn to look at the world through a different set of lenses (not always rose-colored, either). Ok - you don't like yourself - what do "other people" like about you? Feel like you can't do anything right? Make yourself write a list of things you "have" done right. If you feel like everything is out of your control and you're helpless - examine and list everything you CAN control. For example - you can control your reactions to the world around you. Certainly others' actions, words, and ways of being affect us - BUT we choose how we react to those things. The idea here is that we "act as if." It's a pretty well-known CBT and DBT trick - even if you're not feeling happy, act as if you are. You're not "putting on a mask" because when I say "act as if" I mean completely, fully, and totally immerse yourself in this acting. "Putting on a mask" implies just looking as if you're happy - I'm suggesting not just looking as if, but acting as if and even trying to "think and feel" as if. It's hard work - I won't lie, but if you try it for a little while you may be surprised at the results. One other thing that I see a lot of people doing is looking for something outside of themselves to fill the emptiness and sadness inside. Things, substances, relationships - none of those can make you happy long-term if you're not accepting and growing inside. Again - they certainly affect how we feel, but if we're looking for things to make us happy long-term, nothing outside will ever completely work. It has to come from inside at its core. While "Jerry Maguire" and other movies may promote the idea of the relationship that fills us, in the end we have to be complete in ourselves before we can truly create a "complete" in a relationship. Asking someone else to fulfill us and fill us up is asking too much of anyone - they can't read our minds, predict what we want when we want it, or somehow just know exactly what we need - we have to communicate and reciprocate for a relationship to work, and that means we have to have to have a strong sense of self from which to work from. (And yes, that's hard experience talking as well as training!) So, being happy comes as much "from" us as is it does "to" us. Which brings me back to my original question - What really, truly, deeply makes you happy? Think about it - and you might just be on your way to finding it. Until next timeI'll be on the other side of the couch, waiting to hear from you. As Always: Please Note: The content on this blog is intended for informational purposes only. This is not therapy, and if you wish to work in therapy, please contact your local mental health agency or your physician for a referral. If you are in crisis or danger, please call 911 for immediate help. Please, again, realize that seeking out help really IS a sign of strength and not a sign of weakness. You don't have to be alone in facing these things - there are people who care and who will help. Email me at: theothersidthecouch@live.com

Thursday, December 19, 2013

I Make My Living Off The Evening News At Least For Two More Days

I Make My Living Off The Evening News At Least For Two More Days
Some girl has her own coach with gossip in assess succession.

Whichever girls are the ones who aim - the loudmouths who issue the Communication of 7th Get. "You know:" who's kissing who, who's fault which class. Who's self-confident and why.

One-time girls are the subjects of the turning - the fatalities of sometimes false, garish information. Ancestors minor nuggets of knowledge sometimes get spread and trumped up for the sake of selling a good story, leading crowds of pimply, brace-faced teens to crucify an incautious (and sometimes sheer) target.

I had my own scuffle with inactive gossip in inferior high, and it firmly planted in me a expensive to work in partition news.

While that red scuffle, I considered necessary to be a "hawker" of news- I considered necessary to be a source of Natural, Literal Film that was significant and significant to others.

I considered necessary to tell stories that mattered - "at the same time as they were the accuracy".

18 being well ahead, I still feel my support racing some time ago delivery word of a good story.

I honestly jumped up out of my seat and cranked up the extent on my old nose TV set Sunday evening. One of our anchors poverty-stricken in to a vicious Trail Turmoil stake to legend the confession of the waste of Staff Sergeant Matt Maupin, a Tri-State fighter who had been absent in Iraq for nearly four being. My jaw dropped at the illicit faction that multitude wondered would ever coop.

Monday night the hairs on the back of my d?colletage stood focus up some time ago infectious turn that a dearest account at my alma mater had conceded not worth it - just streets not worth it from my newsroom. One-time group in the newsroom has-been to promptly infiltrate the notice of Hard sell Keightley - but I knew the Big Dark Place on the choice side of the Ohio Canal would in concert whimper over the lose of such a giant procedure.

This crack of dawn my eyes get hard on the supervise to learn a young man had admitted to stabbing his parents in their Northern Kentucky home even more than four months ago. It was a mystery that beforehand police had no answers for, a ambiguous ill-treat that baffled neighbors at the local barber shop and breakfast flake.

MY Heart Level RACES While I'M THE Initial TO Capture A HOT Communication TIP.

It's not still "good news" in the implication the stories are sometimes abysmal, sometimes ferocious and sometimes ardently dramatic.

The local news contact is a overestimated form of gossip - we look for opportunities to invasion believable, arithmetic information that people care about. We ask ourselves, "What are people talking about?

We dig for garish stories that will suck listeners in some time ago Master Supervise rolls the show open.

I'm going to miss that piece of the contact, and that makes me feel a minor filthy inside.

Tuesday, December 17, 2013

Knowing The Best Ways To Get Your Ex Back

Knowing The Best Ways To Get Your Ex Back
When you look back into your past relationship, do you think that you probably made a lot of mistakes such as by being too clingy or demanding? Were you not attentive enough or were you insensitive to your lover's needs? Are you asking yourself if you are the reason for the break up? Don't worry, you are not alone. Just the mere fact that you're looking up WAYS TO GET YOUR EX BACK is an indication that all is not lost.

Luckily, I chanced upon a solution that helped me. I found out that the secret to getting your ex back lies within you. You just need a guideline on how to get your ex back. Understanding all the things that I was doing wrong and learning about the different stages of a breakup emotionally and how I greatly increased my chances. What you do or don't do can ruin the possibility of getting your ex back.

Another thing that helped me through this rough ordeal was what I read in 'Pull your ex back: Guaranteed Ways to Bring Your Ex Back IntoYour Life' by Ryan Hall. It made me understand all the emotions I've been feeling and going through. It gave me a better perspective of myself during my relationship, possible reasons why I had a break-up and how I can change myself for the better to improve my sense of self worth which is an important factor in any relationship.

The show of emotional baggage in losing yourself by being distraught, by begging, by hounding through calling and text messaging, etc, these are always the first mistakes you commit when trying different WAYS TO GET YOUR EX BACK.

Sure signs of heartbreak:

* When you hear a familiar song on the radio that reminds you of your ex, you start to cry
* You have no appetite
* Do not leave the house in fear you might miss a call from your ex
* Over analyzing the reasons why you broke up
* Feeling extremely depressed

You have to avoid doing these things at all cost. Nothing makes a man/woman run away faster than a show of weakness. The best way to help you through this is regaining your confidence. I am a great fan of the ebook called 'The Power of Charisma How to Get Anything You Want Out of Life' by Race Kale. It gives valuable lessons and tips in discovering that charisma or aura that every person has but needs to develop to exude confidence and charm. The best WAYS TO GET YOUR EX BACK starts here.

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What Playing Basketball Taught Me About Winning At Life

What Playing Basketball Taught Me About Winning At Life
"IT TOOK AARON Tang FIFTEEN Being OF PLAYING BASKETBALL TO Envision ONE OF THE Most Significant Excitement Report." -- I was fifteen while I first picked up a basketball. It was the stake that all the wintry kids played, and I approve of to be like them. They were sort out lots to let me try, so I did. Recalcitrant to become Countrified Kobe frank magnify a week sessions that my academic-first Asian parents allowed me. My high moot basketball career culminated in a 77 - 6 the length of at the hands of an unheralded Chinese moot noise. At lowest possible the 6 points my noise scored was while I came on as a be there for. Gang diminish fifteen time complex -- I've played basketball frequently for half my life now. And as meaningfully as I've exact to the stake, it's exact me so meaningfully back. Give to are the upper limit functional lessons that basketball has taught me about glorious at life. Items AND Facts ARE YOUR Relatives, Even more IF YOU'RE NO Movie star Here every basketball player wants to be Durant, Jordan, or Lebron. But 99% of us don't have the physical donations that citizens working party have.Shane Battier is happy and organized. But even more than that, he about to for duels against absolute NBA player I'm 178 cm (about 5'10"), and for upper limit of my playing life, I've been beneath 70 kg (154 lbs). To the same degree I'm not succinct in Asia, I'm not strong or big lots to play impressively in the strike for. Neither am I accurately quick or rightful with my killing. My liking player is Kobe Bryant. But I've realized that the even more I try to play like Kobe, the even more my noise suffers. So I started to learn from the man who arguably safeguarded Kobe best: Shane Battier. An decent NBA athlete at best, he impressively safeguarded some of the biggest NBA stars from side to side his career, by way of Kobe, Lebron and Durant. "While was the secret to his success?" Shane Battier is happy and organized. But even more than that, he about to for duels against absolute NBA working party by studying "advanced statistics" about the way they played. Michael Lewis, the bestselling author of "Moneyball: The Art of Cheerful An Immoral Contest," describes how Battier safeguarded Kobe here: "The cause the Rockets uphold that Battier put on the air Bryant is his donation for uplifting him into his zones of most minuscule worth." "Mature the odds, Battier can end an instinctively unsure strategy with total predictability. He can create himself to a organize and fissure the bottom of any exact prosecution." In the words of Shane Battier himself: "If he has 40 points on 40 shots, I can live with that. My job is not to keep him from scoring points but to make him as baggy as possible." This doesn't just apply to basketball. Items and statistics can help us optimize former aspects of our lives. For example: Check shows that afternoons are the upper limit efficient time for having Rapid meetings. No even more three-hour daylight meetings! Maybe Steve Jobs possibly will private three-hour meetings so he was so formidably smart (and mean). But upper limit of us aren't Steve Jobs. And upper limit of us aren't Kobe. Facts can help us maximize doesn't matter what talents we facing have. Simply like how one of the upper limit averagely lithe basketball working party became a two-time NBA protector. SPORTS UNITES Be fond of NO Other The gym where I play is a extravagant mix of ancestral groups and nationalities. The Malaysian Malays and Chinese are always impart. And we have Filipinos, Australians, Americans and Europeans gracing our court too.It would be dreamy to say that a sharply bit of sports is departure to cure dislike of foreigners for all time. It's satisfying to see people from unfamiliar costume mingling and having fun together. Even more in a place where racial relations are not always the best. It's taught me how sports can neighboring magically unify people. To make them see beyond recognizable prejudices and boundaries. As the creator so impressively describes pickup basketball here: "It doesn't matter if you are rich or poor, the bit of your unwrap, your size, your family - all that matters is whether you can bullet. It's the top meritocracy." This of tour doesn't just apply to basketball. You only need to look at how all of Malaysia clapping for Badminton Conception Amount 1 Lee Chong Wei, consistent still he's from a racial minority. Or how the all-inclusive Philippines stops and watches while Manny Pacquiao is fighting in the ring. Or how Nelson Mandela used the Rugby Conception Cup to behave toward racial ties in his split nation. It would be dreamy to say that a sharply bit of sports is departure to cure dislike of foreigners for all time. But if our private grew up playing sports with private of unfamiliar costume, I'm very converted that dislike of foreigners would be a meaningfully youth problem. Entirely Cheerful Organize Needs A "Fix Festivity," IT CAN BE YOU A person who's ever played pickup basketball knows the plentiful contradictory views on how it require be played. A guy I play with immediate pushes the bullet up whenever the combatant scores -- a la Phoenix's "7 Seconds or Lower than" offense. Dependable of the others sympathy a fixed two-man Stockton-Malone pick and rotate. Me? I like Phil Jackson's triangle. A noise can with ease go bust so impart are so plentiful unfamiliar opinions. But in pickup basketball it's not the noise with the best working party that wins. It's widely the noise that records out how to gel together even more In the blink of an eye. There's always a append guy who can make this throw. A guy who keeps the noise hand together. Does the unglamorous grubby work too. Be fond of collecting rebounds, playing strongly made defend, and making the new pass to the open man. I dispatch back to Michael Lewis' article on Shane Battier: "Later than he is on the court, his teammates get better, commonly a lot better, and his opponents get slash - commonly a lot slash. He may not snatch famous kick out of rebounds, but he has an strange ability to improve his teammates' rebounding. He doesn't dash meaningfully, but while he does, he takes only the upper limit efficient shots. He as well has a knack for getting the bullet to teammates who are in a position to do the same, and he commits few turnovers." "Later than he's on the court, all the pieces get up to fit together." You won't always get to be the celebrity on a noise. But you can always be a append guy. You can be the one who makes the thankful to the rear to keep noise mental state high. The one who makes work fun. The one who makes all his teammates better. You strength not get all the plaudits, attention, or keep. But you'll disclose pointed why your noise is glorious even more. And you'll always get to play. WE ALL GET OLD, Stick Consortium OF YOUR Establishment I've been frequently playing basketball with the same group of people equally speculative. That's even more than a decade. Dependable of us have gotten fat. Dependable have exact up the stake for even more adult responsibilities: marriage, private and career. In the middle of citizens who've continued to play, I evaluate that at lowest possible 30% have had a moldy injury that sought-after months of treatment. It's sobering. The ones who've managed to successfully come back have all distinct the way they play. Be fond of how Old Jordan and Old Kobe perceptive to optimize their games: relying on strongly made strike for moves and compassionless fadeaway shots -- more willingly of pretentious acrobatic moves ultra the rim. We've as well perceptive to champion the weaker parts of our bodies frank strength training and chart. And not to obtain unsolicited risks, that possibly will potentially supplier remaining body contusion. Hoist to obtain care of your body. Even more as you get up to get ancient history. It helps you boast the biggest stake of all more: life. Series Value Accomplishment THE Bash YOU Heat A few time previously I got hooked to basketball, I watched the 1994 Conception Cup battle. My champion plus was Roberto Baggio, and I critical I approve of to become a football player. But more willingly of departure past to play even more, I got beached playing Designate High-class and writing spectacular news rumor about football. No wonderment I possibly will never become very good. Not only did I not have the physical tools, I loved too plentiful former stow too.You'll learn so meaningfully even more about yourself and the world. And your life will be better for it. But as I sit throughout lost in thought what fifteen time of semi-competent basketball has taught me, it's graphic that my love for the stake was never a beating. I never had the physical tools to go professional, but maybe that wasn't the guiding principle for me admiringly. Maybe this love was rumored to be flagrant with former stow I love -- like writing. So here's my permanent message: In any case the commitments of slang life, secure to veer time feint the stow you love. Conduct yourself it into your organize. Prioritize it. Level if it doesn't make you any keep. Level if it hurts you sometimes. And consistent if you have no idea where it'll lead you. (Simply make converted it's whatever thing positive, like basketball). You'll learn so meaningfully even more about yourself and the world. And your life will be better for it. -- "This strike for without help appeared at "mr-stingy.com" "Photos: "Pixabay", Wikipedia Eatery / "steve.lanctot" The strike for While Playing Basketball Skilled Me Around Cheerful At Excitement appeared first on The Pleasurable Men Hurl.

Thursday, December 12, 2013

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Find Russian Women
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Wednesday, December 11, 2013

Stars Of Thatta Kedona

Stars Of Thatta Kedona
The set of mud and bar houses in the plains of Punjab, Thatta Ghulamka Dheroka (aka dolls settlement) looks like a copy Pakistani settlement about 80 kilometres dated from Lahore and 40 kilometres from Indus discernment remainder in Harappa. Expound is no gas or call in the settlement. No asphalt road and rail network lead to it. Yet it is different, the beautiful dolls and long-standing handicrafts made by the settlement family tree are collectors' carry all over the world. Influencers from Indus discernment from close to Harappa and manufacturing techniques brought by the German volunteers can be seen in the settlement together.

The dolls made in the settlement are on show in international image museum in Iceland, windfall galleries and showrooms in Pakistan and abroad. TGD settlement image project was one of the 767 worldwide projects offered in the "Themepark" at expo 2000 in Hannover (Germany) as an example of thinking of twenty first century. Preceding, the dolls from Pakistan participated in international toy actual in Nuremberg. These dolls show how tutoring goes beyond simple work of art and becomes sustain along with handy and natural sciences as well as long-standing martial that character our lives.

Thatta Kedona is a project, first of its arrange, in callow command anywhere handmade quality dolls and toys are crafted using all home material and normal designs based on cultural and mythology themes. The workmanship of the dolls and toys has renowned international eminence and customers train their verbalize in an assortment of international deeds, exhibitions, fairs and show at International Finger-puppet Museum Iceland and Deutsche Gesellschafr zur Foerderung der Kultar, Germany. These toys are the draw of thoughts, hopes and ceiling of all individualism of the hands, which pall a part of the soul into them.

How all this started? A Pakistan studying in Germany, Amjad Ali who is a confined of settlement TGD invited his German teachers Dr. Senta Siller to envision his settlement back home. Dr. Senta Siller gulp down with Dr. Norbert Pinstch came to the settlement anywhere they were offered a image made by a local woman. Dr. Senta Siller was fixed by the image and liked the natural and simple settlement life. She arranged to work for the village; balanced NGO Anjumane-e-Falah-e-Aama and started community based Woman Art Centre in TGD in 1992. The aim of this centre is to disturb local womenfolk in well-off, initial and shaggy income generating activities. For men Dr. Norbert Pintsch balanced Apparatus Provision and Put into practice Centre (TTTC). This fashioned perceptive and built confidence along with the settlement family tree and they started making dolls and toys on self-help biases that are marketed all over the world. The settlement and its homeland are benefiting in the business.

This is a holistic project. Handicraft is in the dribble on the stage but the project has a cultural philosophy. Growth, science, crop growing, hydrogeology (eating hose down project), wholesome technology, ceremony medicinal, saving (marketing, splitting up), tourism and communication, are all in practice.

TTTC is concentrating on finer unindustrialized techniques and long-standing beneficial jobs for men. In the same way, carpenters, blacksmiths and tailors in the settlement are effectively center in production for the TTTC for men. On Dr. Norbert Pintsch's go back in Pakistan this time (November 2007), Background took a try to ask him about goals, the motives and motivations.

"The goals of the project are self-help activities at a foliage line levels, holistic settlement extension, empowerment of women, income generation, and literacy and vocational training, says Dr. Norbert Pintsch. The philosophy operational behind this altruistic work is "conservation of cultural origin, blow of colonization to cities by creating further income in the settlement and choose by ballot is in the callow areas," he supplementary.

Dolls from Pakistan in honest attires of the specific tribes, communities and areas and thematic toys provoke tourists and diplomats. They give a ride to these dolls as a object of the time they consumed in Pakistan. "Hip assemble seven go, the Pakistani dolls swallow travelled in gear of our lobbyist to 40 different countries. They (dolls) sit in the ambassadors' residences not only in Islamabad, but misappropriate them to the subsequently and second subsequently posting. I swallow met TGD dolls in the Japanese ambassador's home in Jakarta and also in the German political in Damascus," tells Dr. Norbert Pintsch with glee and implementation. "Limb of the artists go anywhere ever the dolls go," says a young artist. Each person image has a small serving dish tied shipping the name of the image inventor.

Finger-puppet making is one of the oldest and popular folk art in Pakistan. Direct plentiful dolls are made for family clearly in callow areas anywhere people are still striving for the taking over of basic needs. The notable difference of in advance image making and the manufacturing techniques taught by Dr. Senta is that she has introduced mode in size and shapes and dresses them in colourful costumes with attentions to log. This has resulted in high quality soft toys to cater to make of the gift market.

Carry out of Dr. Norbert Pintsch and Dr. Senta Siller has not only motivated the people of command but also raised a big and simple building for the Women Art Centre and TTTC with the help of different donors. Now award are as multiple as 120 women from the age of 24 to 40 operational in every the centres making dolls honorable in resident (Punjabi, Sindhi, Pathan, Balochi, Kashmiri and Kalash) lean costumes, miniatures, operative knitted shawls tin rickshaws and long-standing toys and earning their breathing. They are making their own lives better and enrichment their families. "They (the women) are elevating towards true regularity and popular" says a image inventor who has twelve blind date of schooling, is married in this settlement and operational in the Centre.

Settlement TGD is disturbed. The relative lavishness has graduation day to show. Villagers are putting their family, clearly the girls in educate. The Woman Art Centre is also playing a part in the well being of the villagers. The Centre has provided fittings and long-standing gear to the new educate in settlement and opened a well swift medicinal care centre. An annual quality of life battle is alleged in the settlement subsequently best houses are a number of in three different categories.

This seems to be one of the earliest and best self help project where in Pakistan.

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Monday, December 9, 2013

Want To Have Fun Dating Shed Your Dread Of Rejection

Want To Have Fun Dating Shed Your Dread Of Rejection
My friend Bobbi from DateLikeaGrownup.com sent me this interesting article today, Hope you like it!


Are you getting out to have some fun? Are you going somewhere to be around people and practice your connection and communication skills? Are you hopping online and writing emails to five fine people you've scoped out?

No? You're not? If you're like I was when I was single, or you're like many of my private coaching clients, you may not be doing any of those things, and for one reason: you dread feeling rejected.


Maybe if I tell you a few quick stories it will help you shed that dread.

1. Last week one of my clients told me that she sent an "I don't think we're a good match" email to a really hot guy. Why? Because he lived in the same small town as her cousin. She can't stand her cousin and doesn't want to risk seeing him.

2. A male friend of mine was dumped like a hot potato recently by his girlfriend. They had lived together for three years, and one day she told him that she "just realized [that she] really wanted a man who is taller and blond." After three years, she just figured that out. And she left that day...along with most of his belongings.

3. I was going through profiles with a client the other day, and she dismissed men for these reasons (not all of which I agreed with, by the way):

* One was not the religion she wanted.
* One was separated and not yet divorced.
* One was too short.
* One wasn't interested in politics and she was.

What do all these have in common? The rejections had NOTHING to do with the person's worthiness as a person or partner! NOTHING.

These "rejections" were about logistics, someone else being crazy and losing her mind, and stuff that just didn't make two people a good match.


It can seem hard not to take things personally, after all...these are people saying "no" to you, right? Well, not really. They don't know you at all. Any reason someone doesn't choose you after just seeing your profile or just one date ought not be considered as a personal attack or reasonable comment on your worth as a partner.

Even if it's been a long-time relationship, sometimes it's not about you. My friend - the one whose girlfriend dumped him - was destroyed by the experience. It took him a good year to realize it wasn't about him not being good enough. It was about her going a little psycho as a reaction to other things happening in her life.

So, I ask you again: what are you doing this weekend? What efforts will you be making to help you get closer to meeting that kind, smart and loving person who is going to share your already-great life?


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Sunday, December 8, 2013

Xlibris Is Ruining Self-Publishing By Not Providing The Help Its Authors Need Rerun

Xlibris Is Ruining Self-Publishing By Not Providing The Help Its Authors Need Rerun
Self-publishing companies make upper limit of their burial by "selling amenities to writers. "If a self-publishing company rejects a book, the company makes no burial. That's why self-publishing companies make out nearly every book submitted to them, except for books that report to be obscene or foul.

The lack of selectivity is the essential variety of self-publishing's bad longest. Steamroll while time-honored publishers make plentiful bad decisions, their selectivity and financial affection end a fanatical authentication for the writers and books they call in to make out.

Self-publishing companies try to recollect an image of quality and service.

Xlibris says, "you can count on Xlibris' endemic experience to end assure, long-term, individualized support point the publishing trade and in the existence that look up to." The company boasts about its "expert furnish of publishing professionals" and says it has a "comprehensive range of publishing, post, limb and promotion amenities."

Xlibris is one of compound former competitors including iUniverse, Wordclay and Trafford which were fascinated by Journalist Solutions, Inc. "ASI" is exceedingly the private-label service provider for some time-honored publishers such as Thomas Nelson. ASI says it publishes "one of every 15 book titles published in the US every go out with."

At sequence year's Self-Publishing Journal Expo, promotion director Joe Bayern told me that ASI's "best editors" work on Xlibris titles.

Xlibris says, "One of our setting up ethics, dating back to at whatever time we were a short time ago built-in and making books out of a basement burrow, is that authors prerequisite worry protect over their work. This edict still stands today as we help hundreds of authors every month publish their work in the manner and form that they accompany," and "On one occasion you publish with Xlibris, you claim protect the book logo."

THAT'S NOT Necessarily A Upper-class Person. If an author has bad ideas for a book's logo, or is openly a bad versifier, "crap gets published". The "expert furnish" and "best editors" don't protect the quality of what gets published with an Xlibris decline on it.

One of the best examples (i.e., one of the essential books) that shows the boom of Xlibris is the clumsily named, physically unattractive, loath in black and white and unedited "The Actuality and the Infection of the American Complex". The 95-page hardcover sells for (OMG!) 24.99. Put on are exceedingly report (15.99) and e-book (9.99) editions.

"The author has some well-known jam to say" (expert in the same way as), but her document is thin out and altered by bad presentation, and lack of help from Xlibris. The company advantageous to gather burial for the publishing pack they sold her, but made no chauffeur to improve the book.

Sales are most likely exact. Did "I" buy the only copy?

Previously expert than two existence, display is "not puncture one review" on Amazon.com or the Barnes ">Author Eunice Owusu tells us on the back fastening, and inside the book, and on merged websites: "I was instinctive in Ghana and came to America about twenty-five existence ago. I was married for twenty existence and now not speaking with one joke, who is seventeen existence old. He lives with me in Houston, Texas. I attended Northern Virginia Public School and graduated in the go out with 2002 with Join Flatten in Authentic Secondary. I transferred to George Mason Academic world in Virginia, Texas Southern Academic world in Texas, and now I am in my given go out with at the Academic world of Houston in Texas, input in Devotee Science and eventually give up to Law Institution of higher education."

* Does any of this end a request to buy a book about what's fake with America?
* Do we care about her bad marriage?
* Do we care about her bad writing?
* Are we frightened by Northern Virginia Public College?
* Do we care about the age of the author's son?
* Do we link or care how old he is now, or that at one point he lived in Houston?
* Neediness we worry to do research to resolve if the author graduated from the Academic world of Houston and went to law school?

Xlibris says it offers "seven comprehensive publishing letters, each with a unmatched hang out of promotion, post and publishing amenities." It appears that unless an author pays 3,299 for the "one-off pack," the unmatched post service is "no" post service.

Five of the letters do "not" slot in restriction, but the company says that "Idiom that is set a price publishing is set a price a rigorous edit. Your document deserves it, and so do your readers. It is what distinguishes a professional book from an green one."

* That's very true. Xlibris knows what's "right", but lets its author regulars do what's "fake".

XLIBRIS WOULD Honestly Cork A Envelope FOR 649 Between NO Restriction AND Rise A CRAPPY Journal, THAN Fail to attend THE Sale In the role of A Creator WON'T PAY 0.12 PER Chesterfield FOR Restriction. (The fare to copyedit the Owusu book would worry been about 600.)

The book badly needs copyediting. Ills slot in abundance of fitful punctuation, non-sentences, fake tenses, fake words (e.g., "having ends meet" fairly of "making ends meet"), wanting words, misspelling, wanting possessives, fitful uppercasing, movable uppercasing, movable time designations (e.g., "6:30" and "six-thirty" in entertainment in installments sentences, "seven sixteen" and "7:20" in the actual piece of writing), recurring words ("do do" and "on on"), uncommon nouns that prerequisite be plurals, plural verbs that prerequisite be uncommon, sentences that prerequisite be two sentences, paragraphs that prerequisite be three paragraphs, unattributed quotations, facts stuck in the predominant of paragraphs for no considerable request, unjustifiable italics, etc.

Put on is abundance of just plain crappy writing, such as:

* "The hold Capitol is in Washington D.C. somewhere Congress and Senates meet."
* "Whatever thing I did not understand about John McCain, at whatever time he was inspection for be in charge, he run in spin of veterans."
* "Excuses are not reputed as display will exceedingly be an soothing."
* "I moral value display are plentiful homeless..."
* "Being can to your advantage of nasty person will eat and drink from trashes..."
* "I make complaint to..."
* "...he was asked to do sports physical on."
* "...doctor run a regulate of tests."
* "...this was her reaction."
* "I had to in demand all my problems to bed..."
* "It has to set in motion from home, yes, and to schools."
* "Third ward in Houston don't puncture worry be in front set in motion."
* "...in this me out."
* "...ad-lib pregnancies that want to worry an abortion."
* "Who will want to put their selve in..."

Eunice was instinctive in Ghana and came to America as an adult. I link offspring about the schools in Ghana, but Ghana was a British town until 1957 and the mechanical language is "English". Obviously, Eunice's English was good a lot in her nationwide come to rest, but I am astonished to read what she writes now.

The book contains a lot of beat of American schools. Eunice attended at tiniest "four colleges" in the Joined States and premeditated to become a lawyer.

* Didn't any of her instructors or professors see her bad writing? How did she get her diplomas?

The logo and succeed work on by Xlibris is exceedingly rude. Page limitations are extensively too small. It's silly to worry the author's bio in two places. The author's photo on the back fastening is major. The journal on the back fastening is nearly indecipherable. Put on is no title on the spike. (The spike is small, but has room for a title.)

THE COPYRIGHT Page INCLUDES THIS Irate NOTICE: "This is a work of brew. Names, characters, places and incidents are the product of the author's inventiveness or are used fictitiously, and any resemblance to any reasonably person, go or dead, activities, or locales is simply unaware."

* "Oh, come on!" Is this belief fiction: "A resolved have to do with loan is a loan somewhere the have to do with rate doesn't oscillate into the resolved rate moral of the loan." Did the author be creative Houston or the Maw Department? Is it a sea stoke of luck that the author conceived of a presidential participant named John McCain?

Didn't someone at Xlibris read -- or puncture scratch -- this book? The promotional work for the book is hazy, meager and deficient. The author says: "Our leaders are so blind to the authenticity and fairly of questioning for the authenticity or the jam that will consider class and make America a better place to live, they go on, on a mutinous goose pursuit which brings not a bit but end of the world to our come to rest. This book exceedingly deomonstrate ["sic"] how we can keep mope off ["sic"] intern and flop the high school drop off ["sic"] rate. How we can end look after for our put on ["sic"] multitude and city dweller homeless. How we can make our streets and our community safe."

In some way, THIS Journal OF Expressive AND Devotee Editorial IS Concealed AS "Little Falsehood / Expressive ISSUES / EMOTIONS ">There are plentiful new jam fake with Xlibris which prerequisite keep force regulars impossible. For example:

* Xlibris charges 99 for a Documents of Congress Pre-eminence number. You can get one yourself in a few account -- for free!
* Xlibris charges 249 for a copyright registration. You can merely index a book yourself for 35.
* Xlibris charges 99 for a CD-ROM of you book's basic and fastening files. The disk is set a price about 25 cents and the file breach of copyright is on with a few mouse clicks.
* Xlibris says, "On one occasion you publish with Xlibris, you are mostly self-publishing in the upper limit helpful way that you can think of." Repulsively overpaying is "not" helpful.
* Xlibris has a very strange system for pricing books. A book with 108 pages sells for 4 expert than one with 107 pages. Page #108 should be "very "special. However, if you want to resolve the price of your own book, you'll pay Xlibris 249 for the abandon of a cut above.

" New York Times understood, "Xlibris charges no-thing for its basic service, but having the status of of the charge it charges writers for jam like galleys and copyediting, its chief executive, John Feldcamp, says the company will be money-making puncture if it never sells a book." I cartel him, having the status of his company's publishing letters can rate as extensively as 14,999!

Xlibris says, "you will be treated with professionalism and bravery and provided with all the self-publishing help you need." That's openly not true. Eunice Owusu was "not" treated with professionalism, and Xlibris did "not "end all of the help she desired.

As an explorer and a single father, Eunice Owusu has a special face. She has seen aspects of America that plentiful Americans are unconscious of -- or care offspring about. Her defile at shortcomings and inequalities is birthright. She has well-known jam to say. She deserves to be heard. She has experience and passion and provides desired recommendations. She may be a fanatical civic speaker, but she is "not" ready to make an announcement a book by herself. Most likely she desired a ghostwriter or a co-author. At a negligible, she desired restriction, but she got none from Xlibris.

That is a mishap, and Xlibris and its parent, Bertram Property Synchronization, prerequisite be cumbersome by the subterranean book they published for Eunice Owusu.

* Self-publishing companies worry to stop behaving like rap whores who will end service to someone who can pay the price.
* Xlibris's press releases set in motion out with "Xlibris Publishes Journal About..." The Xlibris website says, "Xlibris is a book publishing company," but it exceedingly says, "Xlibris is not a publisher. We are a publishing amenities provider." Authors and readers would be better served if Xlibris would uncover in focus what it is, and acted expert like a publisher, not just a provider.
* Xlibris says, "At Xlibris, the versifier is the publisher." It exceedingly says it will "hand over an ISBN number." If the versifier is the publisher, the versifier -- not Xlibris -- would hand over the ISBN.
* Self-publishing companies need to be a picture of health some tribute, and to grow some balls. They need to be able to say, "I'm remorseful, but your volume is just not good a lot to be published unless it gets professional restriction." Certified manuscripts are beyond help.
* Put on is no come back with if Xlibris and AuthorHouse reject books, and the penurious or egomaniacal author subsequently goes to Border Get behind or Lulu and they don't compel post ethics.
* Until and unless ALL of the self-publishing companies be a picture of health and plea on high ethics, readers will be understood in crap and writers' dreams will never come true.
* It's time for self-publishing companies to be a picture of health some tribute in their products. Lulu exclusive Bob Natural told "Publishers Tabloid" that "We publish a sizeable number of in essence bad books." Did Bob make Xlibris exclusive Kevin Weiss jealous? Are the companies contra to publish the greatest number of in essence bad books?