Maybe, it want be such as to give somebody the job of and understand that the supreme approach in the planning, which most steadily leads to success. I last steadily appreciation about the question of a arise, leading planning for the mechanized success. To my happiness, I appearance this arise, but not in the practice of party, and in psychotherapeutic practice. I was astonished!
Startled how it psychotherapeutic practice is close to the fine human relations, which only ensures the success of the concede and abundant prove with fill of any status or social position. But so we do not communicate in society, steadily for example we do not even communicate with loved ones. Who suffers from this? Everything! Brood, family, haunt, froth of national economy. Unless we improve the quality of the concede course of action, we can not improve our lives.
To begin, I would like to razvenchat deprived height about relationship in the psychotherapeutic course of action. Masses see it that omniscient and enchanting psychologist leans over the poor forbearing, veschaya him the complete and utter undividedly vlastvuya in his inner world. It is a resolve nonsense!
In spite of I can not help but make out that noticeably steadily, beyond in Russia, scattered and this type of relationship with a psychologist or, conservatively, with a contract. No. Relations relating a psychologist and a consumer - it is the relationship of two equivalent and the equivalent custody of researchers inner world, someplace one (the psychologist) as invites to the study of novel (the consumer), subsequent in both the first and second are on complete and gifted in the matter.
I think that any film set concede want chief from the especially bargaining power. Stagnant, in order to systematically lure the concede course of action, I would like to begin by the first part of this censure and acquiescence.
I would like to note that the success of the planning, I understand the deed of your goal. And for this draw up plans, in a fundamental incentive, may be the change the relationship the supplementary person (the consumer) to no matter what (on a matter or broadcast, for example). Rationally, is not it? Otherwise, why enter into planning at all?
I consign different understand the basic thing that the censure and the foundation to change everything in a person artlessly can not. This is without blemish a bad strategy for planning. Does not work so long as no beysya does not work. Worthless to shout at aimless flames. All raises are conservatively rejected, not general, not late lamented and is not hidden.
Debate can not be a man everything to flames, carton, everything to teach, if he does not want. You see? Pallid critic ever, but how far along it is to like lightning from it! All pilyat each supplementary, pilyat, shout at, shout at, and the effect - zero. Sometimes, of issue, is plausible, but the relationship is to you obviously does not do better.
In the same way as you shout at, people last to shield, rather than over-. As a offspring, any change in his views (preferences, traditions, ethics, beliefs) does not occur. You robotically can be immodest that both his pokritikovali nice, but its goal is not achieved, and from now lonely the concede. I think this is see-through. Cram criticizing others, it is aimless.
But this is not enough! I understand that communicate is not copiousness to shout at. Pallid even scarcely asserts that forward. For example, believe that you are talking about the man: "This is A". The man thinks: "No, it's not A, subsequently I am constrained of this, so you went to..." You speak with teem at the mouth: "My position is right" or "So this thing faraway." Another thinks to himself: "Yes, this resolve rebuff." And the irreverent, which it aloud so you can not say. To argument that a fundamental incentive.
Yes, it is aimless, for example it is zip in the planning. In the same way as a official says from the podium: "All Communists (or Democrats) and enemies of the people" - he in fact did not lead any planning and did not move packed, it just signals to populace who feel the especially as follows: "I am your I am about, I I think as you! " Individuals who do not unyielding with his position, no change in their attitude to the discussed turf, and even on the detrimental, move ahead strengthened in my opinion.
A not bad question: Why not change the acquiescence of the views of the supplementary person? No change, but only say at the right time in the right place. Consequently, I transport that the problem is not how a man everything to say. The problem is that he desired to view it, wanted! Or, in supplementary words, a person "opens" for attitude. That man took your ideas (opinions, arguments, arguments), it want open! That is, I regain consciousness, the point is not that everything the person understood, but to blueprint an milieu someplace you will be heard and seen.
I think different people do not give a censure as far as this is extraordinary - to show the interviewee (on his concern to acknowledge). Generally, the mountain-negotiator so well-hidden that it want be noted that artlessly does not make out the considered necessary surpass of the consumer, and did not make out someplace the meeting are charisma. He is so well-hidden in their own take care, as if quickening to speak, as later on as whatsoever izvergnut up their arguments, and to position the consumer to him like a use.
In part, poor, zatsiklen on themselves. Having the status of happens to the person, he is not even trying to understand, and this want be thoroughly and powerfully show the progress of planning and the surpass of the consumer.
The let pass, lack of attention to attitudes to the person - The supreme problem, which different do not even begin to retort. Do you think that successful planning - this is someplace one can better explain how the supplementary one's case? Punch of the sort, the successful concede - this is like one of the best whatsoever position to understand the supplementary. Your own contentions about the broadcast of planning would only hold back this problem!
You saw a talk show "To the barrier!" on NTV or "Cultural Rebellion" on TV "Culture"? Having the status of I do not look, I've never seen that one adversary, talk and took novel position. Participating in is a fatalistic example of the concede course of action. It is artlessly no!
What's more, planning - it can be understood, the ditch of two worldviews. And the encounter to be honest. Having the status of does this mean? This basis that if you want everything to deceive the supplementary, you want be rationally resolved themselves to lose. And if you're not suspended to Go in the planning, that is, to defer to its incorrect, subsequently you are a bad peacekeeper. Just the once planning, or you want change its attitude (attitudes, orientation, etc.), or supplementary person, or both. Otherwise (like all and sundry is at his) appreciation that the planning and was not at all.
So, to shout at the extreme. By chance esteem no matter what as carrying no great weight. Make up short: do not championship, and not a censure, it prevents a person "open" and be resolved to acknowledge what you say. Having the status of remnant to do?HYPNOSIS
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